For the love of Negativity
I had an epiphany many years ago. In my quest to try to always remain positive, when a negative emotion would enter my realm, I would quickly look to get it out and replace it with a more positive one. I came to the conclusion that did not work. It kept coming back, over and over again. Ever wonder why that is?
I chastised myself for this for years. One day, I allowed the negative emotion to sit, this time the difference being that I questioned where it came from. I quieted myself and allowed it to simply be, whatever it was. I gave it an acknowledgement. I pondered it.I befriended it. I sat alongside the emotion for a while longer and to my surprise, it went away. Sometimes sooner than later, that being totally dependent upon the disclosure of the fear it was based upon. It is my belief that most negative emotions are based around a fear.
In my own journey, I came to the conclusion that when we suppress a negative emotion, be it anger, fear, or jealousy, it keeps coming back to haunt you like a bad ghost. Now I question it’s arrival. I embrace the feeling sans any judgement of myself for having it in the first place. We are all human, and the true lesson is in the awareness, and ultimately the questioning of the negative emotion, pure and simple. It is almost always , based around a fear of some sort. My advice to you, is to allow it. I know that sounds crazy, because we are taught to flush the negative down the drain as quickly as possible, yet not allowing yourself to FEEL it and QUESTION why it is there in the first place just gives it the power to come back, quickly and with more furor. That is the key, to FEEL it and then QUESTION why it is there.
The law states what you focus on expands, so we try to get rid of the negative by punishing ourselves in the first place for feeling it. Also in the fear that the more we are the negative emotion, the larger it will become. THIS does not work. To hold yourself to a standard like that is like punching yourself in the head, over and over again. It is basically unrealistic. I believe that process actually makes the negative emotion stay around longer.
The real beauty in this is that you can and do possess the ability to get rid of negativity, quickly, but not without some work. You can do what I say and feel it, embrace it and it will still come back. If it does, keep QUESTIONING where it comes from in the first place. It’s work, but work that is well worth the effort. IT IS BASED IN A FEAR. Find out what the fear is, and then understand what fear is in the first place. Fear is a state of mind, nothing more, nothing less. You have the ability to change your state of mind. Ponder this and you will understand.
The cause of fear is doubt or worry, the effect is anxiety.If you look at fear for what it is, which is simply a state of mind, you will gain the power to stomp any fear out of your head. Thus, stomp any negative emotion dead in it’s tracks as well. Be grateful for the negative emotion because if you actually question it, and sit with it for a bit, it can be a wonderful disclosure for you. One that will help you become more aware of yourself and how you react.
